So far as I remember, I've met three people who were living Saints so far in my life.
I use the term in the Catholic sense, big S, not as in a really kind person, but an actual Saint. In all three cases, meeting them left me with the impression that while we were fully engaged at that moment, the person I was meeting wasn't all there, that part of them was already on a higher plane... and that's a shitty description, of that feeling, but it's about the best I can do. Makes the hair on your arms stand up, like being in the presence of a lion at bad breath distance, or I guess what people talk about who believe in ghosts. I dunno, I'm sort of agnostic about that sort of thing.
The first one was Mother Theresa, who I met (and got a hug from) when I was in 2nd grade, in an unlikely series of coincidences. The second was a blind priest who was prescient, and talked about things that were happening in my life that I was struggling with just after shaking my hands, and who gave me some amazing advice. I'm less agnostic about that. Dude had a gift.
The third one was Father Donald Sybertz, an African missionary whose sister lived down the street from my parents, and who became friends with my father. I only met the guy twice, at age 7 and again somewhere around 18. He lived in Tanzania for 65 of his 91 years. He's also the only priest I ever knew who was an exorcist, although he wouldn't talk about that and I only knew from my father's talking about it in his own last years. I'm even less agnostic about that. I respect the man enough that I believe that he could do that sort of thing.
Father Don passed away a few weeks ago. I heard just about an hour ago. Strange that I was thinking of him a lot in the past few days, wondering if he was still with us. He was a beloved man in his home region- all of western Tanzania, and to date still as far as I know the only Catholic missionary to ever not 'go native' after more than 30 years of working singlehandedly.
He was also the biggest Red Sox fan I ever met, even in the 70's, 80's and 90's. Obviously a man of faith.
Father Donald F. Sybertz, M.M, died on Sunday, 19 April, 2020 at the Assisted Living Center at Maryknoll, New York, USA. He was 91 years old and a Maryknoll priest for 64 years.
Donald Francis Sybertz was born
23 July, 1928, in North Weymouth, Massachusetts, the son of Frank W.
and Helen Bronder Sybertz. He had three sisters and one brother. He
attended Bicknell Elementary School and Weymouth High School (where he
played second base on the varsity baseball team) and earned a Bachelor
of Arts degree in Economics from Boston College before entering
Maryknoll in September, 1950.
After his ordination in 1955,
Father Sybertz was assigned to Maswa-Shinyanga, Tanzania, where he
served in the Kilulu mission in Shinyanga Diocese, the plains region of
northern Tanzania. Father Sybertz built the first home there to provide
shelter and care for aged persons lacking families and housing. He was
later assigned to Gula Parish, a large sprawling parish undergoing
expansion geographically as well as in the number of parishioners.
Eventually the parish was divided into several parishes, and Father
Sybertz moved from Gula to Mwanahuzi and developed that center into a
separate parish.
Over the years, Father Sybertz
was one of the Maryknollers most proficient in the Sukuma language. His
facility in the language, interest in the culture and knowledge of how
to inculturate Christianity among the Sukuma people led him into a
continuing study of how to relate Scripture and the African wisdom
proverbs, sayings, stories and parables of the people. This study
resulted in the publication of several books in Swahili, Sukuma and
English as evangelization materials for the Tanzanian Church.
Don Sybertz spent a lifetime
(1955 to 2020) researching, writing about and using Sukuma (Tanzania)
Proverbs. So far there are 19 Sukuma “African Proverbs of the Month” on
our African Proverbs, Sayings and Stories Website (www.afriprov.org). Some of his favorites:
- June,1998: I pointed out to you the stars (the moon) and all you saw was the tip of my finger. NOTE: This was our very first proverb on our website.
- October, 2003: The hen with baby chicks doesn’t swallow the worm.
- February 2014: The hoes of two people cultivating together in a field sometimes clash (hit) against each other.
- October, 2018: The salesperson (seller or merchant) does not have only one door.
- February, 2019: The medicine for a rising river is to go back.
- October, 2019: Even an elephant, that is, an important person, can be sent.
These and many other Sukuma proverbs and stories are published in Joseph Healey and Donald Sybertz, Towards an African Narrative Theology,
(Nairobi: Paulines Publications Africa, 1996 (1st Reprint 1996, 2nd
Reprint 1997, 3rd Reprint 2000, 4th Reprint 2005, 5th Reprint 2012) and
Maryknoll, NY: Orbis Books, 1997, (many reprints, New Cover 2012).
Available as an Ebook on Amazon (for Kindle) and Google.
Orbis Books Website:
All this research and writing culminated in the creation of the:
Sukuma Legacy Project Website
The Sukuma Legacy Project promotes the
history, culture, oral literature — Proverbs, Sayings, Riddles,
Stories, Myths and Songs — and visual representations of the Sukuma
People in Tanzania in East Africa. There are various examples of SCCs
and community values. This website is dedicated to Father Don Sybertz,
MM who stayed among the Sukuma people for over 50 years in Shinyanga
Diocese. While staying in Ndoleleji Parish he researched the rich
folklore and culture of the people. See a short film about him HERE. The research committee that he created at Ndoleleji Parish (known as the Kamati ya Utafiti) is still working up to today.
Reflects what traditional African
proverbs, sayings, stories and songs used in Christian catechetical,
liturgical, and ritual contexts reveal about Tanzania, and about all of
Africa. Includes appropriations of, and interpretations of, Christianity
in Africa.
Chapter Three on “African Christology” is
called “Jesus Chief Diviner-Healer and Eldest Brother-Intercessor” and
Chapter Four on “African Ecclesiology” is called “Church as the Extended
Family of God.” It includes sections on: “African Metaphors of Church.”
“Communion Ecclesiology from An African Perspective.” “Trinitarian
Communion Ecclesiology.” “We Are the Church.” “Theology of Small
Christian Communities as a New Way of Being Church.” “Ecclesiology of
Church-as-Family.” “African Communion Ecclesiology and Pastoral
Inculturation.”
Father Sybertz spent his entire
missionary career in Tanzania. He served as Pastor of the Mwanahuzi
Catholic Church until it was turned over to a diocesan priest.
Although Father Sybertz was
given Senior Missioner Status in the Africa Region in 2001, he continued
to work full time in Maryknoll’s inculturation and evangelization
apostolate in Shinyanga, Tanzania.
In 2015, Father Sybertz was
assigned to the Senior Missioner Community and took up residence at
Maryknoll, New York. He was appointed to the Mission St. Teresa’s Prayer
Partners Team in 2016.
Don was a huge sports fan –
following closely every Boston, Massachusetts, USA team. He was a good
winner and a good loser. We had a lot of fun over years talking sports.
Sports was second to spirituality in his priorities. Years ago Don and I
traveled to Ethiopia, Amsterdam and on to Newark. The first night home
we stayed at my brother and sister-in-law’s house in New Vernon, NJ.
After arriving at their house, within minutes the first thing we did was
start watching the Red Sox – Orioles playoff game on TV! Don never got
tired of baseball.
Many stories have grown up around
Marehemu Padri Don Sybertz. Here is one: When Maryknoll priest Father Ed
Hayes, Maryknoll Lay Missioner Susan Nagele and Maryknoll priest Father
Joe Healey were preparing for the 1990 Maryknoll Society General
Chapter we distributed a written questionnaire in the Tanzania Region.
All answered but two Maryknoll Society Members including Father Don
Sybertz who was “notorious” for never answering anything. After a
weekend of a Red Sox – Yankee baseball series, I called Don in Ndoleleji
Parish, Shinyanga from Musoma on the radio call phone system that we
had between parishes. For all to hear I said, “Don, I will give you the
results of the Red Sox games only if you promise to send in your
questionnaire.” He answered, “I promise,” for all to hear. Then I gave
him the results of the Red Sox winning two games to one.
The next day he sent in his
questionnaire! baseball series, I called Don in Ndoleleji Parish,
Shinyanga from Musoma on the radio call phone system that we had between
parishes. For all to hear I said, “Don, I will give you the results of
the Red Sox games only if you promise to send in your questionnaire.” He
answered, “I promise,” for all to hear. Then I gave him the results of
the Red Sox winning two games to one. The next day he sent in his
questionnaire!baseball series, I called Don in Ndoleleji Parish,
Shinyanga from Musoma on the radio call phone system that we had between
parishes. For all to hear I said, “Don, I will give you the results of
the Red Sox games only if you promise to send in your questionnaire.” He
answered, “I promise,” for all to hear. Then I gave him the results of
the Red Sox winning two games to one. The next day he sent in his
questionnaire!
Father Sybertz was the
brother of the late Dolores Hoyt, Loretta Sybertz, Ruth Hyland and
Norbert Sybertz. Father Sybertz is survived by many loving nieces and
nephews and his extended family in Tanzania to whom he devoted his life.
A Funeral Mass (Mass of
Christian Burial) was celebrated in Queen of Apostles Chapel at
Maryknoll, NY on 23 April, 2020 at 11:15 a.m. Father Michael Snyder,
M.M., was Celebrant. Father Daniel Ohmann was homilist and Father Edward
Davis read the biography, Scripture and the Oath. Burial followed in
the Maryknoll Society Cemetery.
In the Memorial Mass for Marehemu Don
Sybertz, Mwana Helena, in Nairobi, Kenya on 23 April, 2020 we tried to
inculturate some Sukuma values in the liturgy. The “Prayer of the
Faithful” ended with:”…in the name of Jesus Christ, our Eldest
Brother/Chief Intercessor.” This is the Sukuma people’s name for Jesus
Christ. It is the eldest brother, the firstborn male who offers
sacrifice to the one God in the Sukuma Ethnic Group tradition. Compare Colossians 1:15:
the beloved Son who is “the image of the invisible God, the firstborn
of all creation.” We used Preface III of Easter on the theme: “Christ
living and always interceding for us.” It includes the words: “Christ
never ceases to offer himself for us, but defends us and even pleads our
cause before God.”
In this Memorial Mass we had a Dialog
Homily when the homilist promoted interaction with the congregation
participants using questions, invitation to make comments, proverbs and
sayings (first and second parts) and open discussion. This was Don
Sybertz’s favorite way of preaching. More of a conversational style.
Example: Don: “I pointed out to you the stars (the moon)…Congregation: and all you saw was the tip of my finger.”
Some tributes: “We pray for and with our
dear Marehemu Padri Don Sybertz, MM. He is now one of our ancestors in
Christ, one of our “living dead.” The Sukuma people in Shinyanga
Diocese, Tanzania loved him very much and called him the endearing name
“Mwana Helena” (‘Child or Son of Helena’) after his mother.” “Padri Don
Sybertz’s other Sukuma name was LUKALANGESE that means the one who finishes all the weeds in his field.
Meaning: Take away all that is against the will of God in one’s life
and put into practice the Lord’s commandments. Don prepared nicely his
spiritual life by putting into practice the teachings of Jesus. That is
why we consider him as a “Saint.” He also helped others in weeding their
fields that spiritually means developing their lives by living
according the teaching of our Lord Jesus Christ. He taught us on how to
live a holy life.” “He was a living saint. What a blessing to have known
him. Enjoy your heavenly reward.” “Raha ya milele umpe ee Bwana. Na
mwanga wa milele umwangazie.” “Pole sana mwanajumuia Ng’wana Helena
ametuaga yangu juzi tunatoa mistakes ajili yake Mungu ampokee. Kazi zake
njema zimpeleke kwa Baba akayaone yale aliyotamani kuyaona. Namatumai
ikwamba ataiobea kazi yetu ya utafiti. Siku ya mzishi yake nitaongoza
misa hapa kwetu.” “May the good Lord rest his soul in heaven. This is
yet another African elder who has left us. Fr. Don pumzika kwa amani.”
“His co-edited book on African Narrative Theology was a wonderful resource to tie in
with scripture reflection in Tanzania.
Helped bring the readings to everyday life.” I never met Padre Don, but
this book was a great tool for me and my friends when we were studying
theology at Hekima College. Even now as a communicator this is a great
resource to appreciate our ancestors’ practical wisdom.” “Going through
the African proverbs work, Father Don Sybertz really liked and invested
his time in the proverbs collections and in sharing. A lot of work and
enthusiasm in the project is truly seen.” Yes, Don was a great
missionary. I remember him from the time that I was working in
Shinyanga, and later from the Sukuma research. Accept my condolences to
you and your confreres. May Don rest in peace.” “He was committed to
the SCCs Model of Church and promoted SCCs in his ministry of
evangelization in Shinyanga Diocese, Tanzania. He integrated Sukuma
proverbs and stories into his SCCs ministry as part of inculturation.”
“My heart hurt yesterday when I heard this news. I bet I can tell some
great Sybertz stories too. He was a faith filled priest. I will miss
him.” “We can honor Don by promoting the Sukuma Legacy Project.”
“You and Don had unconditional love and
esteem for the African culture and people. Together you compiled African
verses. You both spent a life time in East Africa. Don loved what he
was doing each day out in the bush. Several year ago, I visited Don and
his brother when he was staying with his family in Weymouth,
Massachusetts. His niece and family lived next door. It was a wonderful
Sybertz compound. His brother also has passed away. Don never forgot his
roots namely, New England, Weymouth, Boston College, Red Sox and
Patriots. He never lost his enthusiasm for the games. Perhaps these and
other aspects of his life made you and Don soulmates and at the same
time adversaries in the world of sports. Don witnessed to us all what is
the very best of a Maryknoll vocation. Now he has finished the race,
may he receive the prize of eternal life and sit at the heavenly table
with many friends from Tanzania who went before him.” “We loved Don very
much. He will always have a special place in our hearts.”
During his last years Don would listen to St. Therese of Lisieux’s famous book Story of a Soul
on his Alexa listening device given to him by his niece. In these
sorrowful times we can be consoled by the words of St. Therese of
Lisieux on her deathbed: “I am not dying. I am entering into eternal
life.” RIP
Complied and edited by:
Rev. Joseph G. Healey, MM
Maryknoll Society
P.O. Box 43058
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