Sunday, November 12, 2017

Changes

My mom passed away yesterday. It was gentle and pain free, and the hospice nurses and medical team that made her death as peaceful as possible were absolute angels. The entire B clan came together for the first time in years and spent days together in her home. It was exactly what my mom wanted, for her children, great grandchildren and family to be cemented together in order to ensure that we don't drift apart overmuch upon her passing. We were all there when she passed. It was hard but I managed to say something intelligent for once. Something like, 'I'm crying for me, for us, for what we've lost, not for her. She's free and at peace, finally."

 In the 24 hours since her passing, it's been a whirlwind of activity, but the enormous level of support and caring from our friends and community has been humbling. Our cups runneth over, as does our refrigerator, freezer and beltlines.

 I still don't know exactly what I'll be dealing with beyond feeling a touch lost and more than a touch like I'm being carried by the rest of my family. I'm still always on the verge of falling apart but never falling apart.

 My parents were married for 48 years. My mom died yesterday evening. Today was my parents' wedding anniversary. Their marriage defined their lives, and my mom's only real statement this past weekend on what she was thinking about when she thought about her last day was "I hope your father is there to meet me."

22 comments:

Rusty Gunner said...

Condolences, Paul, and blessings on all of you.

Anonymous said...

Hawsepiper, my grandmother passed about a month ago. She's better off than she was here. Well, to those of us who believe, that's a given, but she had many health problems. I was saddened for me, not for her. I understand.
As for your mother's wish, I choose to believe he was there to meet her, with a big, happy smile. How else could it be Heaven?
My best wishes, prayers, & condolences to you.
--Tennessee Budd

Heath J said...

Condolences man. That's rough, but glad your family all stepped up.

Hang in there.

Nylon12 said...

Most sincere condolences for your family and you. No more pain for your mom.Good to have the family around.

Tower Todd said...

It is great that all of you were able to be with her at the end. Sorry for your loss.

Rob said...

I'm sorry, you have my condolences.

Anonymous said...

My condolences as well. I'm glad she was able to bring you all together one last time.

Exile1981

Bob said...

My condolences on the loss of your mother. My own mother passed 5 years ago, and I still miss her.

Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences to you, and to your family .

Jerseygirl Angie

The Big Guy said...

Condolences Paul.
Good that you have family around.
Hang in there.
TBG

Anonymous said...

My condolences.

Borepatch said...

Paul, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm glad that she got to go with her family there, but it's still hard.

Anonymous said...

Sorry to hear of your loss. Lost my Mom 2 yrs ago to alzheimers. It was painful to watch. May God comfort you and ur family in this transition and rejoice in her reunion with your father and her Father in heaven. Peace be with you and your family.
John h.

Iron City said...

Paul
Condolences to you and your family. My mother died over a decade ago and it still hurts sometimes. Your family, neighbors and friends sound aces, stay close to them. Real close.

Peace
Iron City

burt said...

May her memory be a blessing.

Anonymous said...

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your loved ones.

Warren Fischer said...

Many a tear was felt by me for your loss. Please accept my heartache for your sadness.

Irish said...

Paul, my sincere condolences in the loss of your mother.

Irish

Anonymous said...

My condolences to you from my wife and I. Glad you and the family were able to be there with her.

Lloyd in North Carolina

SiGraybeard said...

Condolences and prayers, sir. I'm glad you got to be there with family and not have to find out by phone and travel a long distance to be there.

It's a rough passage to go through. It doesn't get easier, but it will become less painful with time.

Bob said...

Sorry to hear about your mom

jcg004 said...

Sorry for your loss.
Sincere condolonces.
Joe