My mom passed away yesterday. It was gentle and pain free, and the hospice nurses and medical team that made her death as peaceful as possible were absolute angels. The entire B clan came together for the first time in years and spent days together in her home. It was exactly what my mom wanted, for her children, great grandchildren and family to be cemented together in order to ensure that we don't drift apart overmuch upon her passing. We were all there when she passed. It was hard but I managed to say something intelligent for once. Something like, 'I'm crying for me, for us, for what we've lost, not for her. She's free and at peace, finally."
In the 24 hours since her passing, it's been a whirlwind of activity, but the enormous level of support and caring from our friends and community has been humbling. Our cups runneth over, as does our refrigerator, freezer and beltlines.
I still don't know exactly what I'll be dealing with beyond feeling a touch lost and more than a touch like I'm being carried by the rest of my family. I'm still always on the verge of falling apart but never falling apart.
My parents were married for 48 years. My mom died yesterday evening. Today was my parents' wedding anniversary. Their marriage defined their lives, and my mom's only real statement this past weekend on what she was thinking about when she thought about her last day was "I hope your father is there to meet me."
Condolences, Paul, and blessings on all of you.
ReplyDeleteHawsepiper, my grandmother passed about a month ago. She's better off than she was here. Well, to those of us who believe, that's a given, but she had many health problems. I was saddened for me, not for her. I understand.
ReplyDeleteAs for your mother's wish, I choose to believe he was there to meet her, with a big, happy smile. How else could it be Heaven?
My best wishes, prayers, & condolences to you.
--Tennessee Budd
Condolences man. That's rough, but glad your family all stepped up.
ReplyDeleteHang in there.
Most sincere condolences for your family and you. No more pain for your mom.Good to have the family around.
ReplyDeleteIt is great that all of you were able to be with her at the end. Sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry, you have my condolences.
ReplyDeleteMy condolences as well. I'm glad she was able to bring you all together one last time.
ReplyDeleteExile1981
My condolences on the loss of your mother. My own mother passed 5 years ago, and I still miss her.
ReplyDeleteMy deepest condolences to you, and to your family .
ReplyDeleteJerseygirl Angie
Condolences Paul.
ReplyDeleteGood that you have family around.
Hang in there.
TBG
My condolences.
ReplyDeletePaul, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm glad that she got to go with her family there, but it's still hard.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear of your loss. Lost my Mom 2 yrs ago to alzheimers. It was painful to watch. May God comfort you and ur family in this transition and rejoice in her reunion with your father and her Father in heaven. Peace be with you and your family.
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Paul
ReplyDeleteCondolences to you and your family. My mother died over a decade ago and it still hurts sometimes. Your family, neighbors and friends sound aces, stay close to them. Real close.
Peace
Iron City
May her memory be a blessing.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and prayers go out to you and your loved ones.
ReplyDeleteMany a tear was felt by me for your loss. Please accept my heartache for your sadness.
ReplyDeletePaul, my sincere condolences in the loss of your mother.
ReplyDeleteIrish
My condolences to you from my wife and I. Glad you and the family were able to be there with her.
ReplyDeleteLloyd in North Carolina
Condolences and prayers, sir. I'm glad you got to be there with family and not have to find out by phone and travel a long distance to be there.
ReplyDeleteIt's a rough passage to go through. It doesn't get easier, but it will become less painful with time.
Sorry to hear about your mom
ReplyDeleteSorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteSincere condolonces.
Joe
Please accept my condolences.
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